TIMELESS REFLECTIONS BY ZOEY

Marriage, for many, is seen as the ultimate promise of companionship, love, and a lifetime of shared dreams. People often walk into it with wide-eyed excitement, looking forward to a happily ever after. But as someone who has lived through its realities, I can not help but question the rosy picture we have been sold.  

For me, marriage has become a symbol of unfulfilled expectations and emotional exhaustion. There was a time when I was not against the idea of marriage. I believed in its beauty, its promise of togetherness. But in recent years, the hardships i have  faced have pushed me so far from that belief that I now find myself warning others against it.  

When I see people preparing for their big day excited, hopeful, and full of dreams I can not  help but think, You still have time. Run for your life before it’s too late. It’s not bitterness or resentment speaking; it’s experience. Because sometimes, no matter how much you try, no matter how much effort you pour in, marriage can feel like an endless cycle of trying, failing, and hurting.  

The Weight of Suffering  

Marriage doesn’t just bind two people together it can sometimes chain them to endless emotional and mental struggles. For those who feel unheard, unvalued, or trapped, it’s like living in a house that no longer feels like home. And then, when children enter the picture, the cycle of suffering extends to them too.  

I often ask myself,  What’s the point of bringing a life into this world when I cannot even figure out my own? It’s a thought that stings, but it’s honest. There’s a helplessness that comes with wanting to fix things, talk things out, and mend what’s broken only to realize that the other side dose not see it the same way.  

2022 until now has been a whirlwind for me, messing with my head and fueling emotions I can’t always control. The helplessness, the disappointment, the longing for a way forward it all builds up. And when it feels like you’re the only one trying, it’s hard not to question the very institution of marriage itself.  

Is It Really Worth It?  

I am  not saying marriage is inherently bad or that everyone will suffer the same way. For some, marriage works beautifully. It’s a partnership that uplifts and nurtures both people involved. But for others like me it can become a constant reminder of what’s missing, of what could have been but never was.  

The truth is, marriage is not a magical solution to life’s problems. If anything, it magnifies them. It puts two people with their own flaws, traumas, and expectations into one shared space, and if those elements do not align, it can lead to an emotional battlefield.  

The Desire to Fix What’s Broken  

Despite everything, I find myself wanting to fix things. I want to have the hard conversations, to mend what’s been broken, and to find a way forward. But wanting is not always enough. When the other person isn’t willing to meet you halfway, the cycle of frustration and hurt continues.  

And so, I sit here, wondering if marriage is really worth it. Wondering if it’s fair to expect two people to navigate life’s ups and downs together when, so often, they seem to be on completely different paths.  

Final Thoughts  

To those who are excited about marriage or preparing for their big day, I say this: tread carefully. Marriage is more than a celebration or a declaration of love. It’s a lifelong commitment that will test you in ways you cannot imagine. And while I do not want to take away your joy, I do want you to be prepared for the reality of it.  

Because at the end of the day, marriage is not about the wedding day or the romantic ideals we see in movies. It’s about the messy, complicated, often painful reality of trying to build a life with another person. And that’s not something to take lightly.  

“Marriage is not a fairy tale; it’s a story you write together. But when one person stops writing, the pages start to tear.” TIMELESS REFLECTIONS BY ZOEY

This is my truth, shaped by the last few years of my life. And while I hope for healing and clarity, I also hope others can learn from my experience. If nothing else, may it serve as a reminder that love, in all its forms, requires care, effort, and honesty whether you are  married or not.